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The Evasive Balanced Life


Reviewing the areas of life that need balance is a way of showing us how we need to distribute our time, our focus, and where we need to set goals. Most of us focus heavily in one or two areas, but leave the others unattended. When we do that, we miss out on important areas of life.

Every quarter for the past two years, I have been attending a conference for work. One of the workshops each session is about living a balanced life. Every time I look around the room, I am the ONLY woman there.

I can’t help but wonder if other women already have it figured out… Maybe they don’t need a workshop! Or, maybe they don’t think they have time to think about this sort of thing…

For those of you who (like me) don’t have it figured out, I’d like to share a piece of wisdom.

When life is busy, or all of your energy is focused on one area of life, it is easy to find yourself off balance, not paying enough attention to all the important areas of your life. While you need to have focus to get things done, taking this too far can lead to intense stress, resentment and nonfulfillment.

That’s when it’s time to take a step back and review your life so that you can bring things back into balance.

Most people have seven areas of life that are important to keep in balance. When you get stressed, review these areas in your own life and see if you are equally fulfilled in all areas.

  • Family / Friends
  • Play / Fun
  • Intelectual
  • Health
  • Financial
  • Spiritual
  • Career / Business

Rate yourself on a scale of 1-5 for each of these items, five being fulfilled and one being unfulfilled. In what areas do you have less than a five? Why is that so? What can you do to increase your fulfillment in those areas?

Finding a way to be fulfilled in the many aspects of life is what makes us balanced. And, sometimes that means saying NO to one thing so that you can prioritize something you’ve been neglecting. Personally, saying no is my biggest challenge!

Try taking the time to think about this on your own, with your partner, or with your entire family every quarter. It only takes about 15 minutes, but it is really useful! I cannot say that my life is perfectly balanced, but I have become a much happier person since I started doing this. I am much more aware of my frustrations and their causes, so I can take action to do something about it.

Can you think of other areas of life to keep in balance? In what areas are you lacking a bit?

xo –

2 Responses to “The Evasive Balanced Life”

  1. Shanna

    This is great, Mary. I try to assess these types of things as well, often finding that I’m lacking in more than one area at any given time. I guess the success in that is trying to constantly being intentional and aware of your energy and focus and if/ when it needs to be redirected.

    • marylemonwater

      Hi Shanna! I also tend to lack in one area, especially if I am doing well in another. But, I think being aware of this is part of finding balance. Sometimes we have to dedicate more time to one aspect of life than another, but then the tides turn and we redirect our attention again. I am glad I’m not alone! 🙂 Thanks for reading!


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