Being pregnant for the second time has brought lots of comments and questions about my pretty large belly. Most of them are funny, some could get me down on a bad day, but I just think it is hilarious the kind of stuff we say to each other either out of curiosity, to make some sort of small talk or for whatever other reason.
Although I’ve been lucky enough not to have many people want to rub my belly, while I was pregnant with my first child I went to a party where a woman I had just met kept coming over to touch my stomach. This did not sit well with me and I left the party early.
Anyway, I know I have asked some of the questions below- not all- at some point in my life when I did not know any better. Live and learn, I suppose. Here are my favorites I’ve been asked this time around:
- “I didn’t want to say the wrong thing, so I told my co-worker that you were either pregnant or had been drinking a lot of beer.” – From a co-worker. Ha!
- “My friend is due about the same time as you. You are much bigger”- I know there aren’t any bad intentions here, and it really is not a big deal because I know that even though my belly is large, I have gained the weight I needed, not more not less. However, on a bad day, or an especially hormonal one, this could be devastating. A close cousin of this is “You are huge!!!!” – ummm, thanks?
- “You’re pregnant? Again?”- From several people. Well, yes.
- “You look like a tired momma” – a stranger at an airport. I was pregnant, had been traveling on my own with a toddler for 6 hours and had 9 more ahead of me. Tired does not even begin to describe how I felt, but thanks for pointing it out and not offer to help me in any way.
- “You look amazing!” – from a co-worker. This is so sweet and always welcomed, especially on the day I made the decision at 6:30 a.m. to wear a skirt that clearly I should not have been wearing at 5 months pregnant. True or not, it made me feel good.
- “Was this planned?” from several people. Well, none of your business, but yes, as much as you can plan something that is more like a miracle and less like a trip.
- “How are you feeling?”- from the general public. There is nothing wrong with this question, but I often wish I would answer truthfully, it would be something like this: “I’ve had nausea for the last 2 hours and now I am starving and willing to eat anything out of a vending machine. How do you think I am feeling?” Just yesterday, when I felt particularly awful, a co-worker looked at me when I said I was fine and told me I could say the truth. I did, and it didn’t help me feel better, but it was nice that she took the time to listen and not just make an empty question.
- This one came today as a work email sent to a co-worker then forwarded to me, I’ll paraphrase. “I ran into someone who told me Olivia had gone into labor last night.” Considering that I was at home all evening with no signs of labor this one came as a shock to say the least. My co-worker informed the person that I was in fact at work this morning so she did not think I had had a baby yet.
- And my personal favorite and the one that inspired this post: “You’re expecting again? Your baby must finally be sleeping in his crib” – Also from a co-worker. What? Although this is hilarious it is so inappropriate, especially because I had someone else in my office. At least my co-worker was talking to me in Spanish so the third person did not catch this little gem. I was still thoroughly embarrassed and blushed.
What kind of crazy stuff have you been asked/told while pregnant?