It’s 1:00 am and I’m rocking my two year old back to sleep. It’s the third time since he went to bed at 8:00 pm. Clearly he’s not feeling well. I should have known this was coming given his crankiness today.
But, I didn’t think about it. It was Valentine’s Day, a holiday I love to celebrate. The kids and I made ugly heart-shaped cookies, we crafted, and I prepped for a few kid-free days away with my hubby. Freezer meals, laundry, and lugging snow pants from the basement.
My hubs came home from work right as I was getting the kids to bed. I had planned to surprise him with a nice dinner for the two of us (usually he just gets a plate of leftovers by himself). But, man; when he got home, I was exhausted. I was still in my workout clothes, and hadn’t gotten any of “our” meal together. He wasn’t disappointed. He was actually surprised I’d even thought of it.
He cooked “our” dinner and I finished getting the kids to sleep. We ate, drank a cocktail, and shared a cookie that we now assume was covered in sick germs. We were so tired we could hardly talk.
Now, here we are at 1:00 am. I’m reading a text from a very wise friend, who has also been married for a long time. It was a quote she found about old love. It was beautiful. Here is a little bit of it:
Marriage changes us into strangers who have to meet and introduce each other to love all over again.
None of us know who we marry. And falling in love never made anyone angels… it’s only made it clear how far we’ve fallen. Who we say “I do” to is not who we roll over to touch twenty years later. The challenge for the vows is to fall in love with the stranger to whom you find yourself married.
The vows are a vow to make the new stranger you’ve been long married to know the intimacy of old love every day.
– Ann Voskamp
A good marriage gets better every day. Even when we’re exhausted or frustrated, it should feel worth the effort to make marriage work.
My Valentine’s Day was not written by Hallmark. But, now that I think about it, it was actually very romantic. There is an unparalleled intimacy in spending quiet time together in the life you’ve created.
Perspective is a wonderful thing.
I hope you all had a wonderful day of love. I hope that you found a moment to reflect on the love in your life – not just a spouse; but kids, friends, family. Love is everywhere if we are ready to accept it.