Today I visited with the owner of the company I worked for before my kids were born. I loved my job and I still enjoy hearing all about projects.
My decision to stop working revolved around my husband’s job schedule. He works a lot of evenings, weekends and holidays, so our family time often comes in the middle of the week. If I work, we don’t get to have that time.
I really enjoy being at home with my kids, but I desperately miss the creative and intellectual outlet that working provided me. Like most women, I constantly teeter on the fence of which role is best for my family: working-mom or stay-at-home-mom. They are both difficult and I’m sure none of you need to be reminded why.
When I started working at this company, I was the only woman there and none of us had kids. We hired a few women during my time, and even some parents. But, to me, the dynamic remained very child-free and male-driven. However, today, almost everyone has kids and most of the conversations revolved around our children. What an awesome change. I love how kids help us evolve as people; but seeing the company move in that direction was especially cool.
Being in the office reminded me of a few things:
- I am lucky to have the opportunity to be at home with my kids. Their needing me won’t last very long, and I really do treasure this time.
- I loved my job and I was pretty good at it, but I was burned out when I left. When I go back, I need to figure out a better balance.
- Baby #2 rocked my world. I never thought I’d be a stay at home mom, but when Jack was born, I got really frazzled and just sort of never went back after maternity leave.
- I don’t think I gave parents enough credit before I was one, too. Like most things, you don’t understand it til you’re in it. But, I bet I sucked to work with.
- I’m lucky that they still talk to me given all of the above. 🙂
- Sheryl Sandberg was once my idol, but now she can suck it. Not all of us make a bajillion dollars a year, have a husband willing to sacrifice his career for ours, and want to hire a more-than-full-time nanny. I’m glad it worked out for her, but it didn’t for me and that’s okay. I’m really thankful to be where I am and I know I’ll work again soon.
Anyway, I enjoyed seeing my colleagues today.
It made me wish the United States had a better system for working mothers, like better child-care and longer maternity leave. While I’m thinking of it, have you seen this chart? Crazy.
Wishing all of you lots of balance and happiness.