How much do you do with your mom? Is she your ‘sort of’ friend? Confidant? Babysitter? Do you ever grab a coffee with her, just because?
There are so many things I wish I could do with my mom, but I think that most people don’t actually do many of these things with their mothers. Why? I don’t know. Maybe because life gets in the way. But life is also short and unexpected. So here is a list of things I think you should do with your mom soon and often so that you enjoy each other, build some adult memories and get to know her better.
If you already do these often, good for you. If not, now is the time to start. Have fun!
- Take pictures with your mom. Lots of them. If you can, have a professional photographer take pictures of the two of you. Take pictures of your mom with your kids, and of all generations together
- Make her most cherished recipes with her, and write them down
- Read her favorite book and watch her favorite movie, then talk about them, ask her what she likes about them and why
- Ask her to tell you the story of how she met your father, even if you’ve heard it before. Ask for details like what music they listened to, what was their favorite thing to do, how did she feel when she was with him. Look through their wedding pictures together
- Learn to make her favorite meal, even if you don’t like it
- Ask about the time when you were born, and her life during your childhood. Find out how you are similar and different as moms, as professionals or both
- Go out for dinner, or a movie, or a glass of wine, or day at the spa…make your time together special and enjoy it
- Take a family vacation and include her in it, not to babysit, but to enjoy it with you
- Ask her about your grandparents, and great grandparents. Learn as much as you can about them
- Look together through her jewelry and family heirlooms. Ask about their history and original owners, ask how she came to get them and what they mean to her
- Talk about her faith, or lack thereof
- Ask her what she likes most about your spouse/significant other
- Tell her what you love about her
- Watch your favorite childhood movie together, ask her how it was watching it then and now
- Ask her about her career, her jobs, her dreams and aspirations. Did she reach her goals? Is she happy where she is?
- Ask her about menopause, learn what she’s faced and ask any questions you may have. When you get to that point in life you’ll have her experience to guide you, even if she is not there
What else would you add to this list? I know it is not easy or fun to think about things that you’ll miss when your mom is gone. But you will be so glad you built adult memories with your mom when that moment comes. Spend time together, and enjoy it.
Note: I am putting together a list of things to do with your dad too. So, if you have any ideas send them my way. THANKS!