Every parent’s least favorite part of parenting is correcting bad behavior. I am no exception; and it’s no surprise that two rambunctious boys provide plenty of questionable behavior.
Life can get a bit crazy at my house and I have spent a lot of time researching the best ways to deal with kids who make poor choices.
Rewarding good behavior is the most fun way for me to parent and I believe my kids enjoy it too. However, sometimes a reward isn’t enough and I need to be prepared with a consequence.
When I provide consequences to my kids, I want the action to be:
1. Effective – it should be harsh enough to matter.
2. Gentle – not so harsh that the punishment is unreasonable.
3. Easy to implement – quick and always available.
It is important to me that rewards and consequences happen swiftly so that the kids make a connection between their behavior and the outcome. Rewards and consequences should also be easily dealt by my husband or a babysitter.
To keep things simple, I came up with a list of creative consequences to reference when we need it.
– Time out to calm down
– Time in to snuggle and discuss what’s going on
– Sensory activities to regulate body such as:
– Wheel barrow walk
– Crab walk
– Foam roller
– Roll on big ball
– Push ups – 10 at a time
– Wall squat – 30 seconds
– Jumping Jacks – 10-15 at a time
– Wrap up in a blanket
– Bear hug
– Select a chore:
– Pickup play room
– Pickup bedroom
– Wash windows
– Take out the trash
– Sweep porch
– Sweep garage
– Put away laundry
– Clean under bed
– Match socks
– Read a book
– No TV
– Mercy – talk about God having mercy on us
– Early bedtime
– Trace the alphabet or practice handwriting
Obviously not all activities are appropriate for all kids. Use what works for your family!
Feel free to download this free printable here: CreativeConsequencesforGoodKids
Following are a few resources on discipline that have helped me:
The Out of Sync Child – https://amzn.to/2I8Y5Us – about sensory processing disorders
The Connected Child – https://amzn.to/2uquQud – for adoptive families, but helpful information for all families
No Drama Discipline https://amzn.to/2Gi5kJ6 – effective ways to teach and communicate
Good luck with those sweet babes. Every stage is a new adventure, remember to enjoy the journey!